But there’s no denying that the dating part itself presented fewer challenges as a cis-gendered person.
The more I sit with this realization, the more I am convinced that a huge element of the challenge came from the fact that dating sites and other social media groups geared toward dating just aren't that “user-friendly” for trans people.
Claire-Renee Kohner Planet journalist and Bustle author is going where few trans people dare.
Claire, a pansexual trans woman is currently on dating apps, legitimately looking for love with varied approaches and writing about her exposé.
But given how hard it is for a trans person to date in ways that popular culture considers normal, that being gender conformative, sometimes the wrong places have been all we have. Are dating apps anymore productive than a midnight stroll along a dimly lit street?
Well, first it depends obviously on what you are looking for.
That didn’t stop the intense expression of confusion that spread across his face.“So you’re a man? “Do you know how lucky you are that I’m not, like, crazy?
Looking back, it seems dating was much easier when I was a cis-gendered female, rather than it is now that I am an out trans guy.Claire wrote about her App experiences on Bustle and Huff Post live video describing her experiences and has graciously shared this with Planet Transgender.“Dating online really isn’t designed for people who are transgender’ said Claire, “and the ones that are out there generally like to fetishize us or are trolling sites for chasers; this means we are relegated to free sites like OKCupid, Meetme, Tinder or Zoosk.And yet, the basic tools given to you by most dating sites don’t leave much room for personalization.Most sites allow you to choose between only two genders, male and female.“Thurst pretty much came out of a frustrated conversation with friends, joking about how horrible OKCupid was, for queer folks in general but especially for women and trans folks,” Thurst Co-Founder Morgen Bromell told me.